Mon Journal

Human’s Most Dangerous Enemies

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Just recently Indonesian shocked with a news of fatal traffic accident happened in Jakarta on Sunday afternoon. A woman aged 29 hit 12 pedestrians with the car she was driving on, which 9 of them died eventually on the site. Loon! Yeah, that was the first expression come out of me when heard about the news. How come such thing happened during a peaceful Sunday afternoon when everybody was in the middle of their long weekend holiday or in preparation of the Lunar New Year. 

What shocked the people more is the fact of how the subject of this case was under drugs and alcohol. She, whose name is Apriani, had just had a party on Saturday night where she suspected to be on a tremendous ‘high’ with cocaine, narcotics, and alcohol. With such booze, plus the fact that she had not even slept since the party, on Sunday morning Apriani drove the minibus she had borrowed previously, got it on a fast 100 km/h track, and hit those pedestrians. Such an accident, which means it was not intentionally. Or, was it really not intended ? Well, despite all the fact that the case was a pure accident with no motive, the background in which the alleged driver had driven the minibus under booze, fast, and recklessly, it was all intended enough for me to develop such case. 

While the news still has its fame on Indonesia’s trending topic, another shocking news aired on Metro TV, just one day after the shocking car accident. A pregnant women in Semarang - Central Java was kidnapped, and forced to deliver her baby. What’s next ? After the baby got delivered, the previously pregnant women only got one chance to breastfeed her baby before she finally dumped off by the group who kidnapped her in Semarang central district - without her baby. Well, after Apriani’s case, hearing this news only forced me to take a deep breath, much deeper than I previously did when I heard a shocking news. And the next thing I did was, give thank to God that I’m still alive and has not become the victim of other people’s craziness.

Yes. Other people’s ~ which include ourselves in the perspective of others.

Maybe these two newsmaker is only a glimpse out of many crazy things people did to others : slaughtering, war, trafficking, harmful land clearing, etc. But the fact that these two case happened in such an ongoing phase for national news consumption, without any break for people to take a deep breath and having a nice - non violent - life, has made me realize how dangerous we are to others. 

Human is a social living thing, homo socius. This condition enlight the fact that every single human on this planet cannot living by themselves, theoretically. Even someone like Chuck Noland on Cast Away had many people in his life before he stranded away on a Pacific Island, yet needs another people to support his living after years of isolation. But in every interaction we make with others under our social ‘thing’, we also have every potential to harm the others at the very fatal risk. We have every resource to act as another’s nightmare and provide the most dangerous thing for it. 

With or without any bad intention a person have, they would eventually have a logic to build a self defense and self offense to harm its counterparts. In combined with emotion, motives, and bad intentions, these all become such a great weaponry. Silence but deathly. It may unable to do a mass holoaust in a single second time, but ommitting the time frame it may do an annihilation on a right direction, on purpose, and effective. That what all the executive forces - agents and spies in this world have shown to the reality. And with the facet of previously discussed two newsmaker : a baby - pregnant mother kidnapper and a reckless under booze driver, have intrigued me that the danger of what others may bring to us can be anywhere and at any time. We may no longer assume at a safe place with others surrounding us. This is the condition where human has become a major risk for others, of many possible harmful thing to occur.

Homo Homini Lupus. 

Ciao!

Live on A Roller Coaster Through Social Media - What Words May Really Convey

[ “Kalo ga tau apa-apa ga usah komen” | “Kalo ga mau dikomentarin ga usah curhat di timeline” | “Kalo ga mau lihat curhatan gue ga usah follow donk” | “…” ]

[ “If you know nothing, don’t try to comment on this” | “If you don’t want to be commented, don’t rampage the timeline with your stories” | “If you don’t wanna see my stroies, don’t follow me” | “…” ]

That is a glimpse of what I think of things happened this morning on my twitter timeline. Well, not all of it happened actually - which most are my imagination, blame this overthinking brain - the part that really happened is only the first sentence. But somehow, I believe this is the thing that most likely to happened in general cases if something happened for any tweet like the first statement. Don’t you agree? Although this is only within my imagination, this is the most logical phases of statements to occur.

Blame the social media. Blame the words. Such symptom of this words arguing is happened in and only because of social media. How big it takes the part of our life until we mean each of words posted there. One thing that most people forget to realize if how misleading a words can be. We just forgot how the social media in most real time basis situation conveys only visual stuff - words and pictures, no moving graphics, no sounds, and NO INTONATION. Without those supportings, a words may convey a very far different meaning to others, and pufff…. what comes next is an argue of words like I posted in the beginning of this post.

What is next ? Sometimes people just forgot how this social media is definitely “social” just as its very own name. We share something that is read by others, and we sees something that is shared by others. Most of the times is an entertaining and informative things that we ought to know. The other time? It’s only a rampage of personal issue that we should not even care. Yet, we share it anyway. And yet, we respond to this matter as well. But it will only last to certain limits of course. We have to knoe the border of common sense for sharing and responding to these stuffs. Sometimes we have to realize when we share too much, and when we responded to things that should not be responded.

What comes to a final premature conclusion from this post that I posted through my office during work time? Not everybody is ready for this deliquencies of social media. They may have existed there, own lots of social media accounts, posses numbers of friends and followers, but they still don’t get the essence. Sometimes we just easily cross the border, a thin non rigid border that moves all the times in regards with people emotions. And tthe biggest un - readiness of all is : WE JUST TAKE IT TOO SERIOUSLY? Come on, what can you take so serious from a 140 characters. Yes they all say that a words may change someone’s life or even a world, but not with the twitterland. We barely even know who’s really talking there, the logic, the pure mind, the broken heart, or just your thumb playing on your blackberry keyboard.

So at last, let’s go rolling with the social media roller coaster. Play your emotion with it, but what happens in there stays there. Ciao! 

Life Sharing - Living Partnership

What makes you think by having partner in life may help you facing this life ?

What limits you from having partner in life ?

What makes you think by sharing your life with your partner will make it easier to live on ?

What makes you think that there is no possible partner in life that able to give you solution for your problem ?

What makes you think that you will end up with only single partner in life ?

What makes you think of not having any single partner in life ?

What is life partnership ?

What is life with no partnership ?

Who do you want to end up with ?

How do you want to end up ?

- A glimpse of conversation and dilution of me and my bestfriend - a wrap up of last week, an opening for this week -

Talk Of The Mind : Finding Your Life

So finally I start to make a glimpse of my lousy writing again.

I start this wiriting as a recent meetings with my fellow college friends. All of us are within our one year range of setting our foot steps into the real life. So we talk about career, works, life, study plan, and how see and try to seize the future? All of us are in our ambitious golden age to seize that all, and try to expect the best of it. But still, have we really forgot pursuing happiness or the pursuit is just coming within our life finding process. 

The background of idea for this writing?

So some friends of mine recently just resigned or plan to resign from their job,without any preparation of getting into the new workplace (of what so called nowadays term as “got hijacked:) or any plan for additional study or master degree. And then why these people resigned anyway? Again and again it is just like my piece of life :managing expectation, managing happiness. 

In our life, especially within our very first year of stepping into the career world from a nuance of theoretical world, there will always be disturbances and distractions which comes at a very uncertain rate. That is what we called in sociology as a part of assimilation, a part where the core of adapation takes places. This uncertainty will then become a real major obstacles in our life-learning process. And one of the think that we may consider is that such ase is really unpredictable, as the big guy in business states that “the only certain thing is the uncertainty itself” . Managing our expectation to react for such changes will then become a major ability to owned in translating the idealist theoretical world into the real life challenges withs such condition. We have to adapt, we have to stick on the others, absorbing and learns. But at what rate ?

However the rate of managing your expectation and adapting to condition is important, we should really consider our own realm of selves which will be logically much more adapted to the idealist world we have been into. That what makes someone called as idealist and non idealist, I presume. We may call that all this stuff is originated from your very own base of expectation, your real wants. Which of course lead us to your inner self and happiness. So answering the previous issue of at what rate should we adapt and manage our expectation in answering the world, go find out and match it with your own self to manage your happiness. The question is when we have succeeded to adapt and fighting our very own self to answer the world, are we forgetting our real self and forgetting happiness ?

That is where I think the term managing expectation, managing happiness comes. All should come in one purpose, one place - ideally. Again, ideally. So, will it really occurs? Most Indonesians will likely says “que sera sera” since its basically a chicken and egg condition. Nobody knows where we should come first ? But relating it with my basic mind (which I have written in the previous notes), isn’t it happiness is the utmost value we seek in this life? So the process may be iterative - reciprocal each other, but still matching it with this utmost value is important. So don’t try to adapt and manage your expectation but forgetting the inner value of us for being happy like a newborn. 

The correlation and the friends of mine

So what am I really trying to deliver, related with my background on writing this talk of mind is, when it comes to happiness it is okay to take a few steps back behind and reconsider your adaptation process and manage your expectation higher or lower. So for my friends who have just recently got off the job, without any special mean other than gaining your true realm of happiness, I’d say GREAT! You have set yourself in the iterative process. As the old man says, it’s better to take a few steps back and do it right rather than continuing it wrong. 

I am writing this not as an expert of career, HR stuff, or even psychology, but still just as a talk of my own mind (it’s my blog anyway :P). So friends, maybe at this moment you find yourself at a very hard pace, not knowing whether you make a wrong phase or not. But anyhow, you have set it in the right direction, right foundation and that the process of realizing it well is not happened within the tick of a clock.

Wait and see, when you have managed your true realm of happiness well, set it clear and smooth for the expectation.

What is more? What is less? 

Now we may see ourself and asking are we doing it right? am I happy? . Well, well, we may at some pace fool ourselves and try to justify that everything is running well. But somehow, our true realm shown in our face : happy or non happy? 

So when it is a non happy thing, why bother to torture your body and soul for managing your expectation so high? why you try to adapt so well like some great man does that? 

What for? What are you really looking for?

PS : For the last week, I have started my diet program and it’s running well. Special thanks to Achai Berry and my beloved colleague, Ms. Isabelle Janvlyn Tjioe. - Irrelevant - :) :D