Mon Journal

Talk Of The Mind : Finding Your Life

So finally I start to make a glimpse of my lousy writing again.

I start this wiriting as a recent meetings with my fellow college friends. All of us are within our one year range of setting our foot steps into the real life. So we talk about career, works, life, study plan, and how see and try to seize the future? All of us are in our ambitious golden age to seize that all, and try to expect the best of it. But still, have we really forgot pursuing happiness or the pursuit is just coming within our life finding process. 

The background of idea for this writing?

So some friends of mine recently just resigned or plan to resign from their job,without any preparation of getting into the new workplace (of what so called nowadays term as “got hijacked:) or any plan for additional study or master degree. And then why these people resigned anyway? Again and again it is just like my piece of life :managing expectation, managing happiness. 

In our life, especially within our very first year of stepping into the career world from a nuance of theoretical world, there will always be disturbances and distractions which comes at a very uncertain rate. That is what we called in sociology as a part of assimilation, a part where the core of adapation takes places. This uncertainty will then become a real major obstacles in our life-learning process. And one of the think that we may consider is that such ase is really unpredictable, as the big guy in business states that “the only certain thing is the uncertainty itself” . Managing our expectation to react for such changes will then become a major ability to owned in translating the idealist theoretical world into the real life challenges withs such condition. We have to adapt, we have to stick on the others, absorbing and learns. But at what rate ?

However the rate of managing your expectation and adapting to condition is important, we should really consider our own realm of selves which will be logically much more adapted to the idealist world we have been into. That what makes someone called as idealist and non idealist, I presume. We may call that all this stuff is originated from your very own base of expectation, your real wants. Which of course lead us to your inner self and happiness. So answering the previous issue of at what rate should we adapt and manage our expectation in answering the world, go find out and match it with your own self to manage your happiness. The question is when we have succeeded to adapt and fighting our very own self to answer the world, are we forgetting our real self and forgetting happiness ?

That is where I think the term managing expectation, managing happiness comes. All should come in one purpose, one place - ideally. Again, ideally. So, will it really occurs? Most Indonesians will likely says “que sera sera” since its basically a chicken and egg condition. Nobody knows where we should come first ? But relating it with my basic mind (which I have written in the previous notes), isn’t it happiness is the utmost value we seek in this life? So the process may be iterative - reciprocal each other, but still matching it with this utmost value is important. So don’t try to adapt and manage your expectation but forgetting the inner value of us for being happy like a newborn. 

The correlation and the friends of mine

So what am I really trying to deliver, related with my background on writing this talk of mind is, when it comes to happiness it is okay to take a few steps back behind and reconsider your adaptation process and manage your expectation higher or lower. So for my friends who have just recently got off the job, without any special mean other than gaining your true realm of happiness, I’d say GREAT! You have set yourself in the iterative process. As the old man says, it’s better to take a few steps back and do it right rather than continuing it wrong. 

I am writing this not as an expert of career, HR stuff, or even psychology, but still just as a talk of my own mind (it’s my blog anyway :P). So friends, maybe at this moment you find yourself at a very hard pace, not knowing whether you make a wrong phase or not. But anyhow, you have set it in the right direction, right foundation and that the process of realizing it well is not happened within the tick of a clock.

Wait and see, when you have managed your true realm of happiness well, set it clear and smooth for the expectation.

What is more? What is less? 

Now we may see ourself and asking are we doing it right? am I happy? . Well, well, we may at some pace fool ourselves and try to justify that everything is running well. But somehow, our true realm shown in our face : happy or non happy? 

So when it is a non happy thing, why bother to torture your body and soul for managing your expectation so high? why you try to adapt so well like some great man does that? 

What for? What are you really looking for?

PS : For the last week, I have started my diet program and it’s running well. Special thanks to Achai Berry and my beloved colleague, Ms. Isabelle Janvlyn Tjioe. - Irrelevant - :) :D